I’m trying to figure out the best approach to tell someone that a second date will not take place. He seems like what I’m looking for but…I’m not attracted to him at all. I took in his appearance but after trying to convince myself looks don’t matter, I’m like to hell with that theory. I can’t envision a first kiss at all.
I’ve realized why he it seemed that he’s what I’m looking for and it bothers me. In our first conversations he asked a lot of questions. I remember joking at one point and I asked if he was taking notes. So now it seems that my interests are his interests. I could take him at face value, but he’s never done any of it before. I like to venture out and travel. He has a desire to travel but never has because he can’t coordinate with his friends. I travel by myself and have done so for a while. I could never coordinate with others and I don’t believe in living my life on pause. I mentioned that I like to visit art museums and he mentioned that he wanted to see a play on Broadway. Cool, right? Then he mentions he’s never seen a play. Ever. If he couldn’t afford to do so that’s one thing but that’s not the issue. He’s a person that lives his life on pause.
So, I’m not going to go through a laundry list of why I’m not interested in him romantically. Nor am I going to say let’s be friends. That always sounds lame.
Normally, I would lie and say my ex-boyfriend and I got back together. But my coworker set us up and it would be easy for this lie to unravel.
Funny aside: Someone asked me if my ex changed would I take him back. I said, even if Jesus came down and told me so himself, I’d say Jesus, I hear you, but too much has happened. Thanks for getting him ready for the next chick.
So we’ll chalk this up to another first date/last date!